Perfectionism’s roots often lie in early childhood. Today I invite you to explore those roots as you start to cut back your perfectionism using these 5 friendly tips.
We’ll start by looking more closely at the verbal and nonverbal messages you received growing up. Which will assist you to take the next step, as you identify the hidden agendas that sabotage you? These insights, in turn, free you to begin replacing those undermining messages and agendas with clear intentions and supportive self-talk!
- What Perfectionist Messages Were You Given as a Child?
Think back to once you were young and first experienced pressures to be perfect. What explicit, spoken messages did you receive about being perfect? List them, then ask yourself the following:
Who delivered these messages?
What was your response?
What patterns, springing from those days, does one continue in your adult life?
- What Nonverbal Perfectionist Messages Influenced You?
What actions did you witness as a baby that spurred your desire to be perfect? Was perfectionism modeled by important people in your life? Were you trying to complete some lack of perfection?
Describe what you observed and experienced.
How did you feel?
In what ways do you perpetuate this in your adult life?
Now, step back and appreciate the insights that you just are opening yourself to. What lessons are you learning about the things that triggered your early desire to be “perfect”? Notice how, when you consider those ancient messages now, you’ll see just how outdated they’re. This undercuts their power over you within the present!
- Use Your Powers of Logic to cut back Perfectionism.
You can overcome perfectionist paralysis with logical questions. The next time you say, “But it’s still not perfect,” ask yourself:
What would be perfect?
How would an impartial observer describe the project right now?
What does this tell you?
Perfectionism paralyzes, undermining your ability to move forward. Despite how essential your excessive standards may appear, they really prevent you from achieving your potential.
So the next time you are feeling immobilized by perfectionism, use logic to create a positive foundation to move from.
- Reclaim Your Power by Naming Your Hidden Agendas.
Self-defeating behaviors that stubbornly resist change often mask hidden agendas. Perhaps your strong desire to be perfect protects an illusion. Deep down, you would possibly believe that “perfection” protects you from criticism. Or even that specialize in tiny details helps you avoid challenges that feel scary. Of course, this illusion of safety comes at a steep price!
However, if the unreachable goal of perfection manifests in your life, it’s probably because you thought it might somehow help you. Now you’ll claim the ability to decide on productivity and proactive strength instead of illusory and impossible perfection.
- 3 Simple Questions Expose Hidden Agendas.
Ready to zero in on your hidden agendas? Those that propel you toward perfectionism in your life today? Here are 3 questions that will assist you to uncover your unrealistic standards and make a path to maneuverer beyond the illusion of perfection. Remember to stay compassionate as you explore your answers. Your goal is to liberate yourself, not judge yourself!
- What are you trying to cover up by being perfect?
- What challenges do you face once you don’t cover-up?
- What benefits come from meeting these challenges with realism and resourcefulness?
Give yourself some minutes to answer each question. What patterns do you discover?
Just check out all you’ve uncovered and learned. In childhood, you probably did your best to keep yourself safe. Now, invite yourself to stretch. As you leave perfectionism behind and explore brave new vistas, consider all you’ll find!
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