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Life Changes, sometimes at the Drop of a Hat:

 

What rules do you live by? I’m not talking about those who govern what you eat or how you dress but something more meaningful. What rules dictate your life? For example, many people establish rules for how their life should be or not be. When things don’t end up as planned, they feel like things are falling apart. Have you ever experienced something like this before? Equally, there are people who have rules about the person they should date or marry. We hear about this all the time where the person must have certain physical traits, earn a selected income or come from a specific demographic or ethnicity. However, rules don’t work all the time and a few of them should be ignored, as George Bernard Shaw remarks within the title quote.

 

We can’t expect to live a purposeful life bound by rules. Some rules are set by loved ones from an early age and that we take them on into adulthood. Other rules are established by us, within the face of adversity or hardship. Sometimes, we establish rules to protect us from getting hurt, regarding dating and relationships. We set boundaries on what we’ll accept or not accept during a person. But is this the thanks to living? Can we place boundaries and restrictions on ourselves and therefore the way our life should develop? Whilst it’s normal to abide by values and beliefs, we must take care to upgrade the rules we set for ourselves. As you know, life can change at the drop of a hat. This means who we were a decade ago isn’t a similar person we are today. If we abide by the principles from that period, we aren’t living intentionally but following a script like a computer program.

 

It Is the Intention You Set

 

Does this make sense, insofar because it requires re-examining the rules we set in place as we mature throughout our life? When I was young, I had rules about the way my life should play out. How people should treat me, what kind of work I’d be doing and my relationship status. And guess what? None of it found out for me. Why? Because life interceded and showed me otherwise. Life proved repeatedly that my rules were insignificant in my life’s narrative. Moreover, as my consciousness expanded my circumstances reflected this variation. I liken it to white water rafting during a torrential river and determining how the journey will unfold before you began. Suddenly, you’re besieged with uncompromising conditions and you realize your rules didn’t take this into consideration.

 

This is what happens to several people once they establish rules. Life shows up and proves their rules don’t delay. Now, from the tone of this blog, you would possibly get the impression I’m against having rules. this is not the case, what I’m advocating is being mindful of whether our rules are working for us and changing them as we evolve. Rules, like beliefs, must change with our circumstances, otherwise, they’re no more useful than the money we play within a Monopoly game. Unless you’re five years old and believe that Monopoly money holds currency, rules have an equivalent effect. They hold us back from living in alignment with our highest values and intentions. They restrict us from being engaged with life. Rules are as effective as the person who creates them. Behind every rule is a positive intention to move forward with joy and enthusiasm or succumb to fear and criticism. If we create rules from an area of fear, they’re going to show up anytime. So, if we’ve been hurt in earlier relationships and establish rules to protect us, we hold ourselves back from engaging in love and intimacy. We build barricades to guard us instead of healing and transforming our pain and disappointments. Are you with me so far? Are you starting to see that while rules are often helpful, it’s the intention you set that dictates whether your rules are serving you?

 

With this in mind, I’d such as you to do a quick exercise. Write a sheet of paper or in your Journal, a minimum of five rules you live by. They will be related to any area of life whether it be: career, dating, finances, health or otherwise. Create two columns and within the left-hand column, title the header: “Rules I Live By.” Write your rules below. Within the right-hand column, title the header: “Is This Working on behalf of me or against me?” Examine your five rules and choose whether or not they’re working in your favor. How will you know? Check out the standard of your life. For example, are you in a happy, loving relationship? If not, go back to the rule you created for relationships and examine whether it’s serving you. Go through the other rules and take an honest inventory of whether or not they are helping you or holding you back from living purposefully. Be careful in your evaluation not to apply a confirmation bias to create yourself feel better. Ultimately, once you let go of the principles, things not only get simpler but life will show you whether you’re living from a place of fear or an area of love.

 

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